For every parent, kids are the dearest and most precious creatures in this world. And of course, it is a very essence of parenthood to be worried about our kids. Even if your offspring is already an adult and have his own family we still worry as if they are little kids. In fact, they will always be youngsters in our eyes.
But sometimes it is much better to let go and give your kid a bit of freedom. Sometimes there is too much ado about nothing and that fact can lead to unnecessary tension in parent-kid relationships.
Below, you will find several useful recommendations on how to stop worrying and harmonize your daily life.
If you are stressed you won’t be able to take even tiny issues lightly. Every small problem will be perceived as something grave and it will only make things worse. Take a step back, relax, breath, meditate. Before you say a thing that you will probably regret about the very next moment just follow the next simple rule. Let it cool of. Psychologists suggest waiting at least 24 hours before trying to resolve a stressful situation. You will feel it yourself. After 24 hours the issue won’t appear all that bad and you, most probably, won’t get into a conflict with your kids.
Do not project your wishes, feelings, and worries on your child. A lot of parents tend to apprehend everything through a “parent filter” and that is something your kids will absolutely despise. Then again, just take a step back. Try putting yourself in your offsprings shoes and think like they do. We all were there someday, so it will not be that hard.
No, we are not talking about psychologists. Just talk to someone, get a second opinion. Call YOUR mom and ask her, call a friend or text your spouse. It is quite useful to discuss something with a friend and listen to what they think about the situation. You don’t have to follow any bits of advice, but most of the time it will be a good relief from stress and you will be able to make certain decisions better.
Don’t be a couch potato. Do some exercises or go for a walk in the nearest park. Fresh air and natural colors will be very helpful to get those repetitive annoying thoughts out of your head. Exercise, yoga or jogging will also get your body to generate more endorphins and that is a hormone that kills stress. You can also relax and listen to your favorite singer or a band, just let the music flow through you and push out any bad thoughts.
Our world is a scary place. It is easy to start worrying about anything after a seeing numerous news of kidnappings, sexual abuse or homicide. Just turn off that TV. It is not happening to you or any of your loved ones. Read a book, watch a comedy flick on Netflix or just simply call your children and ask how are they doing.
Just don’t make hasty decisions and always think before trying to take control. Following those simple tips above will help you immensely in relieving stress.